“All human life has its seasons, and no one’s personal chaos can be permanent: winter, after all does not last forever does it? There is summer, too, and spring, and though sometimes when branches stay dark and the earth cracks with ice, one thinks they will never come, that spring, that summer, but they do, and always."
Y J -fiance, 2-3-99 "I am more peaceful now knowing that people do care and that there are projects like this to be there for us. I would not have guessed in my lifetime that I would have had to endure this much pain. I know it will not go away forever, but it is comforting to know that I can contact such a group to help with the pain"
Kathy - husband, son, 8-17-99 "This process has helped me to get in touch with my own pain and thus lessen it, soften it. Life is fuller and more meaningful. I feel more able to live with purpose and consciousness."
* UNUSABLE NAME 8-17-99 "The group support has built itself on previous sessions. This has been very helpful to me in slowly feeling trust and safe. The awareness of how coping with the trauma has helped me see that different ways of coping can be harmful and destructive. The approach here is very constructive and effective." Patricia - son, 8-19-99 "I have been privileged to be a part of this group. I hope that all I have experience will continue to help me process my grief--- "
*UNUSABLE NAME- 8-23-99 "This has been an incredible experience for me. Although it was painful, it was necessary. I feel stronger and comforted in the fact that its ok how I am feeling and that it is all part of my grieve process. I t was especially gratifying to be able to share myself with others who also can relate to my loss. My deepest thanks, Thank you for all your support and understanding".
Peggy -mother, 8-26-99 "The first thing that comes to mind is that this has been a progressive group experience for me. Having been involved with other groups dealing with similar issues, they seemed to be focused on the tragedy and stayed stuck in that mode. In this group, each week I felt progress and positivism and as a result felt lighter, freer, calmer and stronger."
Dee-niece, 8-25-99 "This group experience has helped so much in coming to grips with my feelings associated with my tragic event. Thank you. Your agenda is truly incredible in working out so much I did not know what to do with as far as anxiety and helplessness. I did not know what to expect in most meetings and that was always amazing to see what surfaced. ...One thing I noticed was how changed we all were in the 9th meeting from how we were at the 1st meeting. "Thank you.
Unusable Name "This program has truly been a "God-send" for me. Without the support ...I'm not sure where I should be, emotionally, at this point. It sincerely helps sharing with others on a weekly basis. They all understand all too well. It has helped so much in the healing process. Thank you very much!"
Ann-brother, 11/30/99 "It is extremely useful not only to hear oneself, but also to hear others who are experiencing similar trauma. In-group, I learned that in working my way through tragedy, anything goes-as long as I do not lasting harm to myself or others. I also got bits and pieces of knowledge from others with older cases regarding the; legal process. This was invaluable. Also, the feeling that I was surrounded by unusually attentive, perceptive and caring professionals made me feel that my journey was important, and not to be overlooked in its myriad parts. "
"My favorite meetings? Self-care, for one: realizing that I have learned so many ways to comfort myself was empowering! I also felt that discussing the criminal justice process was important. I would definitely show the State of California tape about the justice system before the homicide cop even comes to speak. There was no where near enough time to speak with him. Perhaps the video should be shown the week beforehand, instead.
Also, needed the victim impact statement night very much. "Family night and photos" was another favorite. Keep up the good work; it is worth it, because it lets us know that we are not alone, and that there is a way through this unspeakable mess."
Cathy , April, 2001 "...changed my life forever-I feel that the kind of help I received was something I only dreamed of. The group was so different for me, other people with my exact problem. I no longer feel so alone, talking about my (son) was like a special gift. I now feel there may be a life out there for me. But at least I feel a spark of life. There may be a place for me in this world."
9/6/00-- Mother "The group was good for me in two ways. One, it provided me a chance to speak about Kevin's death and two; it gave me a chance to meet others who grief was the same as mine. "
Shannon-son, 9/6/00 "I think the group is good because it gives a lot of information about the justice system that the police don't bother or have time to explain to you. Thank you"
UNUSUABLE NAME "The commemorative and death imagery segments were especially useful for me. The former because it emphasized to me how many positive things there are to remember about my father. It brought back the earlier times, before his sordid death, the times I was so proud of him. The imagery activity because it made me realize how powerful I am, that I can have these horrible images in my head and put them on paper."
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